You’ve just come home from a long hard day and all you want to do is watch YouTube Video’s or do Facebook or nap or eat. Anything but speak and think. You’ve been home no more than a minute and your ‘woman’ says, “Honey, would you please take out the trash?” You say, “In a minute dear.” Your woman gives you an intense look.
The woman feels unheard and frustrated saying,” It’s needs to be done right now.” He hears an order reminding him of his mother. This type of bantering continues until the man ends up “giving in” taking out the trash begrudgingly. He hears, “If you don’t do this you will be in trouble all night.” He then huffs into his man cave for safety and shuts the door in frustration.
The women says, “Why don’t you ever do what I ask?” The man hears the word “Why,” immediately becoming defensive and doesn’t even hear the rest of the question. The woman being fast with her tongue starts to cry saying, “All I ever ask from you is to help me around the house.” The man in turn feels guilty and hears that he never does anything right. Both parties become sad and hurt.
Woman: Needs to realize that the man needs time to adjust himself from work to family life. He may need some physical space to do this, whether it be his man cave or doing some ‘mindless’ activity.
Man: Needs to realize that his woman is ‘complex’ and may need to feel wanted and heard.
Studies show that the saying “Happy Wife Happy Life,” is true. Husband’s lives satisfaction is heightened by their wives marital happiness.